Vanity thy name is woman! new law passed for harassment
Lady Macbeth is the best example how a woman behaves and tortures a man.
New law for harassing husbands comes into effect from Thursday, October 26, 2006.
And now a law has been passed to penalize men harassing women (wife or partner!), thanks to Renuka Chaudhry (Is she married and harassed? Or just political stunt?)
Now my points:
1. How many men suffer due to nagging by wife? Is there any law to protect them? (I can give hundred instances from my personal life of friends and relatives)
2. The newly married woman called as ‘Graha Lakshmi’ in theory needs time to adjust to new surroundings ands this is not given – by women folk. The husband is the only one who supports her initially. Later he gets joins others (sister or ‘Nathanar’ in Tamil and ‘Mamiyar or mother-in-law). The problems faced by women are fought by men (e.g. Bharathiar)
3. Why did Lord Ganesha did not marry? He is still waiting under the common ‘Arasa Maram’ (a tree which, if prayed gives birth to a child). The reason is, Lord Ganesha is still waiting for a woman who is lovable as his mother! And still he is waiting.
4. The harassment comes from women and the husband is the most suffering one (Like ‘Mridangam’ he gets hit by both sides). To balance he tries hard but fails. How can he convince mother or wife about their EGO?
5. Why there is so many crowds in Panagal Park? Jewelers, Saris, Status, Comparison are harassment to men!! Contentment in Life is gone. That is the basic problem.
6. There is feminity in men also. And masculine features in women. So there are hen-pecked men! May be the Law wants all men like this?
7. How many women really sit and share office problems with men? They watch TV serials instead!! For example there is a scene from “Chill (or Sill?) Endru Oru Kathal” – The hero Surya submits a good design for a Car. But the Superior calls him a Mechanic and says that he cannot give a good design. He comes home angry. Jothika does not care and share his anger. Listening, understanding and Love solves all problems. Sure Law cannot.
8. There are enough good husbands in this world. Only women spoil them by their Vanity. A woman like Renuka Chaudhry wants to appease women folk to get votes like Arjun Singh in Reservation and Quota.
9. Man by nature is dominating like Bull. Woman is the ‘MAYA’ (explained better in Bhagawad Gita). The Apple story in Bible is not correct. It has been twisted. In fact the very story Man eating Apple is stolen from a simple story in Upanishad.
10. I respect women, and ‘Amman’ traditionally. But the Uma, Parvathi and Saraswathi are all there in theory. Modern woman has many responsibilities other than going to job. And only Love, understanding and care can solve the so-called harassment. Law can give Divorce if needed.
11. The best pediatricians and Gynecologists are women. They understand the sufferings of children and women better. Culture and Tradition will give a solution.
12. Why do women pose for CARS other than Vanity items?
13. Modern films (or old ones by K. Balachander), have no morals. They induce women to go after another man who is good, better and becomes ugly after wards.
14. Security is what a woman wants. And men should not fail in this. And women should be patient and encourage men in their Job or Business.
15. Men are sure physically strong and women intellectually. The BALANCE will solve the problem. Not the Law.
16. Women’s Lib is welcome. But it will have its own problems. Due to women themselves. Not men.
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Here is the full text of News from New Indian express with my comments (in brackets)
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http://www.newindpress.com/NewsItems.asp?ID=IEH20061025115125&Title=Top+Stories&Topic=0&
New law for harassing husbands comes into effect from Thursday
Thursday October 26 2006 00:00 IST
NEW DELHI: A new legislation backed by hefty penalties or jail sentences for men who abuse their wives or live-in partners, will come into effect from Thursday.
The Domestic Violence (prevention) Act 2005 is primarily meant to provide protection to the wife or female live-in partner from violence at the hands of the husband or male live-in partner or his relatives.
(Does this include ‘Nathanar’ the sister and ‘Mamiyar’ the mother-in-law?)
Though the Act was passed by the Parliament in August last year, the implementation was pending as detailed consultations were required with the states and other agencies for framing the rules.
(Why not the Male population was not consulted? Who are State and other agencies?)
The legislation was primarily meant to provide protection to the wife or female live-in partner from violence at the hands of the husband or male live-in partner or his relatives. The law also extends its protection to women who are sisters, widows or mothers
(And not brothers and fathers?)
Domestic violence under the act includes actual abuse or threat of abuse whether physical, sexual, verbal, emotional or economic. Harassment by way of dowry would also be covered under this definition.
(Dowry is dead is in practice. It is an act of love by parents and brothers towards a girl going to be married. It cannot be measured monetarily. Domestic violence is there. Women also show their anger by breaking the vessels).
Minister of State for Women and Child Development Renuka Chaudhary said that the new law will go a long way to provide relief to women from domestic violence and get their due. She said that her ministry requested all state governments and Union Territories to ensure that the necessary administrative arrangements are immediately put in place for the implementation of the Act.
(Is Renuka Chaudhry a victim of harassment? Or she does this to gain popularity? Or is it cunning politics?)
The ministry also simultaneously issued another notification laying down the rules framed for the implementation of the Act. These rules provide for appointment of protection officers, service providers and counsellors. Action will be taken in the event of the respondent breaching the protection order passed by the magistrate in favour of the aggrieved woman is also prescribed in these rules.
(Rules and Laws do not protect women. Love and understanding on both sides is the only solution or worse –Divorce)
One of the most important features of the Bill is the woman’s right to secure housing. The Bill provides for the woman’s right to reside in the matrimonial or shared household, whether or not she has any title or rights in the household.
(Oh! This is a joke! How can a woman live with only title deeds and house? Who will protect her against other good or bad men?)
However, apprehensions are afoot over the proper implementation of the new law for protection of women from domestic violence by the centre in view of lack of proper administrative arrangements in the states and lack of awareness among women. (Women are more clever and aware!!
(It is the administration which will create a mess and harass men and abuse men and sure for money!)
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pranita said,
October 27, 2006 @ 9:08 am
Dear Ambimama …
I was really happy when i came to know that there is a law finally in place for domestic violence .. You have listed so many points abt women .. but dont u think domestic violence is a big no no .. there are many women in this world who are patient and understanding but their husbands dont understand them … they beat them up , torcher them for more money … There are thousands of dowry deaths every year .. Even people from middle class families are going thru this .. is there no soution for them … A woman is also a human being and shd be treated with respect .. How many men across the world treat their wives with respect .. 1 in 10,000 .. How many women across the world treat their husbands badly 1 in 10,000 . This is the difference between men and women .. This law will bring about a lot of changes .. I just hope , there is a lot of awareness among women regarding this law ..
PS: Am not against men . I do accept that there are some cunning women who can misuse this law but that is 1 in a million . This law is a boon for million women who are suffering silently ….
Raj said,
October 27, 2006 @ 10:07 am
Hi Pranita,
I agree Domestic violence is there throughout the World. And India is late in implementing the law for this.
But my point is - Man alone is not be blamed. Sure women are also the cause for their sufferings. And Law is not the solution. The root cause should be analyzed instead of punishing. And what about the same Law for Men harassed by women (forget the ratio which is your approximation)
pranita said,
October 27, 2006 @ 7:15 pm
raj …
Please be honest , are men not responsible for a woman’s suffering .Give me an eg where a man was burnt or murdered by inlaws and wife for money or had commited suicide .. It has never happened and never will . But have u not heard of women commiting suicide ,or killed by husband n inlaws .. What abt those women … If the husband is understanding and supportive then his parents will not have the guts to torcher their DIL .. It is because of such irresponsible and cruel husbands that there are dowry deaths ..
In fact if you ask me , there is nothing wrong in giving capital punishment for these men .. who are nothing but animals … Such people shd be punished only then will others get scared next time they abuse (physically/verbally ) ….
Not many men are harrassed by women .. If yes please give a few reasons .why they are harassed … cause the truth is there is no need to harrass men .. unlike women who get harassed for money , etc
ambimama said,
October 28, 2006 @ 8:09 am
Dear Pranita,
I fully agree with you, that this Law would bring releif to lots os women suffering silently. I wish they are bold and informed about the Law and how it can protect them.
But my entire content in the article mentions about sufferings of men also. So I wish a Law is passed to protect men also.
Raj said,
November 6, 2006 @ 5:38 pm
Hi excited people,
This is what makes one, do mistakes of any kind verbal, physical or ZODIACAL!
It has been provwd that women are soft and men are what?(Rowdy? Bastard? filthy? and so on…) But if women go by history and know men are bad why they go after? WHat is it that attracts? it is the very filthuness that is within wothat attracts them towards men! Both are God’s creation are are divine. ENOUGH!
Nishant said,
November 17, 2006 @ 8:05 am
Pranita,
First of all, plesae dont blame men for all the problems of women. Secondly, most of the people are NOT against protection for women who are REAL victims. But at the same time, men need protection too. Given that a man can be jailed just for insulting his wife, shouldn’t the same treatment be given to the wife if she insults the husband ? The law makes extortion legal. The wife can ask for ANY amount of money and the husband has to pay for it otherwise, he goes to jail. Moreover, he can not ask for anything from her !!! Law needs to be fair regardless of gender, race and religion.
The main problem with this law is that it imposes a lot of responsibilities on men without giving them any rights and it grants a lot of rights to women without requiring them to be responsible.
Please visit the following site for more information
www.498a.org
Nishant
Raj said,
November 21, 2006 @ 12:38 am
nt,
Thank you. I just wanted women to refer to this site. There is lot of misuse of Law by wives’ relatives and there has been 267 cases of in Chennai and have proved fake.
Give Law to women? Freedom? They will tuen Indira Gandhi and put 2nd Innings Gandhians into jail! And declared Emergency.
vanitha said,
November 21, 2006 @ 4:44 am
I wonder why all men are crying about this law as if they are helpless in the court.
Courts will deliver justice and do not base decision on gender, religion, social status. This act is only to prevent domestic violence which women face. It doesnot take away rights of men. It only prevents him from being violent. If men understand this properly, there is no need to fear.
Regarding doubts that some women will misuse this, such women can misuse many other acts also which they have tried and failed if it is false.
Have faith in judicial system.
Judicial system cannot be misused and will never be.
Act gives immediate relief to needy which is required.
sanjay said,
November 24, 2006 @ 4:30 pm
hello sir,
meri bahan dyvorcy hai, ek bacchha hai.
mera jija meri bahan ko mently pareshhaan karata tha.
ye dusari shadi hai.
jab bachha 5 saal tak bada bi ho gaya tab ,usako kuchh pareshaani nahi thi.
ab wo bachhe ko milane ke waste aur hum ko mentaly disturb karne ke liye
lawyer through bacchhe ko milne ki ijajat le li hai.
per wo ab pareshaan karta hai.
detail me nahi likh sakta.
respected minister renuka chaudhary ne ek act ke jarie women act dakhal kiya hai.
per ye kaise kare, hum?
aur isi kais saul karne k liya kitane din lagate hai?
jab tak 100% dyworcy nahi hoti, meri didi aur kahi bhi shadi nahi kar sakti, usaki umra baddhati ja rahi hai!
hum kaha arj dakhal kare!
hame insaaf aur madaad dono chahiye.
thanx
-sanjay
ambimama said,
November 25, 2006 @ 8:48 am
Pyare Sanjay Bhai,
Apki dukh kitna sach hai! Aur apki hindi bi itna asaan and saral hai.
Hum log ‘murd’ ko marne ke liye yeh kanun laya gaya hai!
Hum kosih kare aur shanth rahe!
Swarup Sarkar said,
November 30, 2006 @ 12:30 pm
Vinitha and Parinta ,
Do you know some men why cary for this law ?
Because they have to suffer the abuse of thier mother and sister in the hand of thier dishonest wives.
Women does not mean a wife only , please understand.
We want “Domestic Harmony Law” .. waht is the problem with that?
And
If you are so much confident that women do not do any crime in domestic violence , then why the LAW gives a advance whole sale free lincence?
This is not a LAW at all , this is AK47 , and please remember the way this law drafted , you can also will be trapped by a dishonest women along with your husabnd.
Because here the law on assumption based not on reality or crime based.
P K said,
January 8, 2007 @ 11:40 am
I was married on may 2001but from starting I was continously harrased by my wife. I soon separted the kitchen from parents with the view of better married life. But continuously interference by my wife’s mother, wife’s sister & wife’s brother create domestic violence. In Sep 2002, I become father of one male child. Here is short details but the main is she is working govt employee and In Aug 2003 She left my partent home and filled a case of dowry, names husb, moth, paralyse father, brother and of my borther’ wife. Now I am continously harsed by law as well as by Wrong and Lie story of dowry. The child is with me and now he is 4+ Yrs. Now I am interesting to divorce what can i do.
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