
The work of inviting people directly for marriage, visting their homes is a bad and cruel experience. It takes lot of time and discussion about what are the arrangements being done and whether all purchases are completed?
Even the above is OK. But the serving of coffee, tea and other juices plus snacks bother me more. After so many years of relationship, in one word the host whom we are inviting should understand, that we are on the run and already have had many varieties of Waterloo Drinks.
But It never happens.
So even before marriage I am overloaded with extra calories due to love and affection.
They should understand and treat us. Just a plain glass of water is enough!
So I have to take extra care to say to then politely, that we are stomach full already.
They should understand inviting is a huge time consuming process and leave us as early as possible.
But in practice it is never happens..
I really hate this kind of OVER-LOVE Culture.
There are many other aspects as to not inviting personally and sending invitation by post!!
How can this be solved in the present hectic days, where people are not available while we go to invite. And when we post they take it as an insult.
I remember one of my friends who visited my marriage, though I forgot to invite him. This is the positive and good.
I wish in future there is a solution or an end to this type of inviting and get abused.
Should they not realize the difficulties of how marriage is conducted ritually? It is easy for people who go after registered marriage in India or abroad.
There is no invitation needed of any kind due to inter-national relation by marriage due to any religion, caste or personal purposes, which I agree is totally practical,
In this context I hate arranged marriages. I love LOVE-Marriages. No invitations. Nothing formal.
All is well that ends well, inspite of trouble from relatives, friends and forgotten invitees.
Arranged marriage is the most difficult thing to do. There is a saying in Tamil “Kalyan Panni Paar, Veettai Katti Paar”, meaning building a house and conducting an arranged marriage are the most difficult things.
It is from practical experience I write his, which makes me hate my culture, due to jealousy, fault faith in what they believe (with no respect for Love), and assuming and comparing only monetary value of a person.